Ms A contacted Call a spade a spade for advice and support regarding the step to take concerning the father of her two children.
Ms A informed Call a spade a spade that she met her partner while she was in Nigeria and her partner was on a visit to Nigeria. According to her they both dated for sometime before Ms A. joined him here in London. They were both living together like a good couple and before long Ms A fell pregnant and had her first child and sooner after she had a boy also by the same man. Ms A partner goes out to work like any other man to earn his living.
However one day Ms A partner told her that he was travelling to the continent and would be back in few days. Something strange happened, Ms A called the father of her children on his mobile phone, who answered the phone? Of course another woman, not just an ordinary woman. The said woman claimed to be his legal wife who had four children by him both male and female.
According to the other woman in the continent, she reports that she got married to her husband some sixteen years ago while in Nigeria and that due to her husband’s immigration status, she decided to stay where she was and got married to him to legalise his papers. However, Ms A reports that she could not believe her stories but the woman in the continent promised to e-mail their traditional wedding pictures to Ms A.
According to Ms A’s explanation her partner returned back to London without the knowledge of what transpired between Ms A and the other woman. Ms A told Call a spade a spade that she kept the secret until she received the other woman’s e-mail. Ms A then approached the father of her children, who was shocked of the revelations, however an argument engulfed and Ms A’s partner walked out and never returned. Ms A contacted the other woman through e-mail and she was told to try and sort it out with the father of her children.
The said partner is now with his first wife in the continent but Ms A and her two children have been abandoned here in London. Ms A is left to look after the two children on her own. Receiving nothing towards the support and upkeep of the innocent children.
All efforts to speak to the father of Ms A’s children proved abortive as he does not wish to speak to us, however the first wife told Call a spade a spade that it’s a matter between the two of them and she has no say into the matter.
The Questions are:
(1.) Why did Ms A’s partner behave the way he did? Why did he lie to Ms A. that he was never married?
(2.) Should this man be exposed and punish for his unfaithful behaviour i.e. possibly to report him to child benefit agency?
(3.) What do we say/advise to other men that still believe their secret will never come out into the limelight?
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It is a shame that some men think it is okay for them to treat women in this way because like some of the excuses I have heard before"Their great grand fathers did it and nothing bad happened to them"
ReplyDeleteI am also aware of some women who would do anything to get with a man with the aim of permanently breaking up his home and walking away with the man. The lady would be very silly (To say the least) that she was not aware that the man was
1) Of marriageable age
2) father of at least 2 of those also innocent 4 children by the legal wife.
She probably chose to ignore these facts with the aim that the man would stay with her.
Some of the questions she needs to be asked is why she did not marry the guy in Nigeria before coming over here (Even if it is to do the traditional marriage even if it was to be in abstential)that shows serious commitment on the guys side, she also chose to ignore her in-laws warnings that he was in a "Commited relationship" because of her desperation to have the man.
The victim her is not this lady, she is only "Smarting" because she lost at the end and not because she was lied to. You cannot ignore a marriage of 16 years because a desperado has had 2 children by a married man. She has laid her bed, it is now time for her to lie in it, unfortunately, 2 innocent children are involved, the kids have their mothers to blame.
The first wife who is now with the man in just trying to keep her home even though it seems she is wasting her time, but she is doing what any traditional Nigerian woman would do and stay with a known devil than going with an unknown angel. I only hope she does not get HIV, Cervical cancer etc while she is at it.
Let all women know that it is only God that can guarantee happiness in any form of relationship and we should all wait on him to help us all. To all cheats, (Man or Woman) you will get what is coming to you.
Passionately Me
Betty
SAD THAT OUR SISTERS IN THE ACT OF DESPERATION TO GET HOOKED WILL CONTINUE TO FALL VICTIM OF MEN WITHOUT SHAME AND HONOUR. HOW ON EARTH,ANY WOMAN GETTING PREGNANT,CO HABITING WITH A MAN AND NOT KNOWING ANY THING ABOUT THE MAN,FAMILY BACKGROUND,BROTHERS, SISTERS,UNCLES,OR ANY LINK TO TRACE THE MAN. THIS IS ANOTHER CASE OF SOCIETAL MORAL BANKRUPTCY.IF RELATIONS EVEN FRIENDS ARE KNOWN DURING DATING CLUES ABOUT THE DISHONESTY WOULD HAVE TRANSPIRED.SOME WOMEN DO IGNORE THE SIGNS. GOOD LUCK TO YOU. ANOTHER STATISTIC.
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